yes but consider ur fav ship
- making rly bad jokes rly at night and full on snort laughing w/ each other
- FIGHTING OVER BLANKETS IN BED
- 1 of them cooking dinner but its shit and the other totally taking the piss
- finding the song that’s /their song/ but its a rly bad song but they get emotional when it plays
- T A K I N G S E L F I E S
- borrowing each others clothes but they’re both different sizes (1 PRSN IN BAGGY TSHIRTS AND THE OTHR IN RLY TIGHT TROUSERS THAT DONT RLY BUTTON UP)
- going 2 see a movie but it’s shit and they shout at the screen and all the othr ppl in the cinema tell them to fuck off
- saving up and going 2 a fancy place for dinner but they cant pronounce the names of some of the dishes on the menu and its cute
- TRYING 2 BE REAL GROWN UPS WHO R RESPONSIBLE but they still eat kids cereal and get up early 2 watch cartoons
- having like week long arguments about rly silly shit like who would be a bettr astronaut or who would win in a fight between a dragon and a griffin
- generally being weird nerds
Anonymous asked:How can I be a cis ally? I feel like every time I think I'm there I'm always told only trans people can determine that. Any advice?
sorta making this a general post
sorry for highjacking your ask anon
how to be a cis ally
- 1. always listen, rarely speak (in reference to trans issues)
my reasoning for this is simply because if you identify as cis you can only have a limited understanding of the context of trans/nb issues.
basically your identity creates sort of a living version of putting on sunglasses.
you are perpetually shaded from the experiences that dont systematically affect your life aka privilege. therefor you will not be able to make statements about experiences that you dont live
as far as learning about these issues keep in mind that you’re not separate from the oppressing class, so while it may seem easy to just ask a trans or nb person you should do research before considering that. especially since it isn’t entirely polite to ask someone to be a speaker on the behalf of all trans folk (although i do personally enjoy talking about it as long as it’s with ears open and genuine compassion)
- 2. use your position to make call outs
lord knows this world needs more people willing to call out, and change their own transphobia
this can include:
- reporting trans harassment (like on social media)
- be critical of your own understanding of trans issues
- use gender neutral language when necessary (basically avoid gendering something and someone off the bat)
- politely ask someone’s pronouns and defend them
- challenge casual and blatant cissexism in language
- speak out against slurs, stigma, and erasure
- just always be conscious of transphobia
there are many more things but i honestly don’t have the spoons for it at this moment sorry
- TransWhat? Allyship: first steps
- mogai archive: gender, and pronouns
- Biologist Anne Fausto-Sterling’s book Sexing the Body
- Learn about truscum and terfs and how they damage trans and nonbinary individuals
honestly i don’t want to push posting this anon off for another day i’m probably sorta rushing it but i’m just exhausted
(followers please let me know if any information or resources that i provided are problematic or anything else that i should add to this - so anon, keep your eye out for changing information)
"Your highness" is gender neutral.
So you know, if you’re ever confused about my pronouns.
alternatively, “your majesty,” “my liege,” and “supreme overlord”
please note that “your grace” is also acceptable
But that’s because the pronoun in use is “you”
You only say “Your ___” when addressing the person.
Otherwise you still need to include a gendered pronoun (or a gender neutral pronoun).
Example: Her Majesty the Queen.
If the Queen used they pronouns we would say “Their Majesty the Queen” (or maybe some sort of gender-neutral equivalent to Queen I dunno).
My dad would tell me that when we were little and people would say to him “wow, four daughters, that’s a lot of weddings to pay for” (because traditionally the bride’s family would pay for the wedding), my dad would respond with “well, we’re hoping at least one of them will be gay so we can split the cost with the other bride’s family”
He said people never knew how to respond